Top Tips for Newly Weds

Here are some tips, which will help you sail through the ups and downs of your newly wedded life.

Money Matters

This is one of the major causes of argument among spouses. Communicate your plans and aspirations about the money you earn, to your spouse and come to a mutual understanding about this issue. Keep an open mind and listen to what your spouse feels about the whole thing.

Saying Sorry

Apologize when you are wrong. This will go a long way in strengthening your relationship. Do not take it as an ego issue. It will get you nowhere.

Bragging about your mate

Praise your mate’s good qualities or something he or she has done for you to others – but within earshot. There’s no boost to a man’s self-esteem like hearing his loved one tell her mother/sister/best friend what a great job he did painting the kitchen. Take pride in your partner’s work, whatever it is. Whether it is maintenance man or cashier, if your spouse does it well and is honest reliable, every job is

just as important as CEO of the company. Tell him/her how proud you are of them. This will make them love you all the more.

Humor one another

Let the spark of humor brighten your lives at both tough as well as good times.

Humble Yourself

Let your spouse win over an argument, which he/she feels very strongly about it. Let your loved one know that winning them matters most than winning the fight. By letting your spouse win on some issues that are dear to his or her heart, you are validating their feelings.

Keep In Touch

Be willing and able to reassure your partner and be thoughtful of their concerns and worries. If you’re going to be late, call and let them know so that they won’t fret. When out with friends (although you don’t have to) give a quick “just checking in,” call. It costs you nothing and will show you are considerate and thinking of them.

Criticize, but lovingly

Once you are married it is but obvious that you are most open to your spouse with regards to love as well as criticism and nagging. Make the effort to soften the delivery (“It would really help me if you could remember to take the trash out the night before since I’m so rushed in the morning. Thanks,” works so much better than, “You never take out the trash!”

Ask and You Shall Receive.

Ask, ask, and ask!! Trying to guess what is on your spouse’s mind is a recipe for disaster. Ask specific questions and listen carefully to the answers.

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