A Memorable Wedding Night: Tips and Ideas

It is always good to be hopeful about your wedding night. But it may not be as you must have imagined it. Wedding nights determine the value and level of intimacy the couple are about to share for rest of their lives. So start it on a comfortable note. The mantra is to understand and accept the uniqueness of each other. This night marks the beginning of your life together as husband and wife and has a lot of importance attached to it being a successful affair. In some instances, a bad wedding night has been said to carry a bad omen for the marriage.

You need to be realistic and hope for the best. The celebration would have already tired you, so the need of at least an hour to relax and brush off the exhaustion. Instead of behaving awkward, approach your partner as a friend. Talk, be humorous, and basically feel at ease and make your partner feel the same.

Tips for Wedding Night:

• If you are going to your honeymoon destination right away then the best advice for your wedding night would be to try and keep the intimacy of your night alive till you get to your destination. You can do this by talking about the wedding, your love for each other and your future plans. This should keep you in sync till you get there.

• For those who are staying in a nearby local hotel, it is nice to book in early before the front desk closes. You may want to be the last to leave the reception after seeing off your guests but this may result you in spending your wedding night outdoors. Find a way to get your hotel room key before they shut the front desk for the night.

• Take a nap after the wedding and wake up to a fresh wedding night. Do not straight away jump onto each other, but rather take some time to take a shower and freshen up. This is your wedding night and being smelly does not encourage any mating feelings in your partner and rest will guarantee a better performance.

• If you are too tired to have actual sex, it does not mean that the night is ruined. There are many other ways of enjoying your intimacy without having actual sex. For virgins, this is a good way to talk and get to know more about each other. It will give you a chance to explore each other without the pressure to perform.

• Surprise your man with sensuous lingerie and try wearing the bare minimum to allow both to get into the mood. Then you could start with a sensuous massage. Get used to touch and make yourself comfortable. Also you need to understand your own body and what it needs. Feel free to communicate to your partner about your sexual pleasures and fantasies.

• If you intend to be a virgin by your wedding day then, you need to talk to your partner before the wedding night. This is a good topic to discuss during your pre-marital counseling so there will be no misunderstandings that may lead to embarrassment. And on your wedding night do not be afraid, or nervous, it is okay if you do not know some things. Most things about sex are learnt overtime so do not be hard on yourself.

• Have low expectations. You have spent a whole day on your feet and you are most likely going to be very tired by the end of the night. Tiredness and sex do not mix, so most probably you will just sleep off, or if you get around to it you may have sex but not great sex. You should not worry about this, you are likely to do better in the morning or sometime in the course of the night.

• For couples who have had sex before, it may be advisable to put sex off for some months before the wedding, as this will increase the sexual tension between you and make your night unforgettable. It is also advised for you to try out new things you have never done before in bed. And the wearing of something designed to ignite your partner’s passion on the wedding night is highly recommended.

• Lastly, even if sex wasn’t as great as you thought it would it be, then relax, you got a lifetime to make it as exotic and beautiful
Creating an ambience of love and passion adds to the beauty of this night. So, do it with candles, wine and flowers. Let your partner be floored by you and all the things you are doing, to make this night, the best moment of your lives.

Things to remember:

• Abstain from sex for weeks or months prior to the wedding night.

• Don’t drink too much of alcohol as you could be clumsy or even sleepy after that.

• If you don’t want children so early then do take precaution and feel free to discuss with your partner.

A wedding night can be whenever you want it to be and not necessarily the night of your wedding day. Top on the list of what to do on a wedding night is to have mind blowing sex, but this is not possible as you will be tired from a long day. The trick is to relax and know that now you are officially married and your wedding night can happen at anytime. For virgins, it is good to remember that like all things, sex too is only made better by practice, so the best sex you ever had is not likely to be on you wedding night.